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i refuse to call it "gay marriage" since it seems that marriage is hardly ever described as gay - fulfilling, committed, enjoyable, work, commendable, etc. - but gay is rarely used.

it's been on my mind because a friend of mine posted a simple question on myspace: "gay marriage - for or against?" in which he got an avalanche of responses both for and against.
it seems like whenever people get on their soapbox against it, it's usually in reference to two men - "god made adam and eve not adam and steve." women are ancillary, as usual. well let me first say it's a pretty lame pun as a well as being completely unoriginal. it's seems to me that if someone has already written or said it once, it doesn't bear repeating when in a debate.

besides, god didn't make marriage which i thought was the subject in the first place. still i can't give any credit to the people who were for it because their basic answer was "whatever - just don't ask me to marry you." as if gay folks are out trolling for straight folks to pop the question to. there are just as many commitment phobic gays as there are straights and guaranteed there will be just as many divorces, if it's ever allowed.

not one person brought up the fact that besides the emotional part of wanting to marry someone - there are practical reasons. like being able to be at your dying partner's beside if need be since only the married or the family can be present. being able to decide what to do with your partner's belongings otherwise everything reverts to the family. being able to decide how the person is buried and honored.

sure no one wants to think of the bad things that might happen but they do happen and being married assures that the decision-making process is in the hands of the person who most likely has the latest information on preferences.

adam and steve... i guess there's no female rhyme for adam ... lana and eve? whatever - just don't ask me.